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BLAST FROM THE PAST

TUESDAY, JANUARY 04, 2005

Aku terjumpa web site ni dari satu komuniti bloggers. Aku dapati ianya sangat menarik dan contents dia sangat berterus terang dan sangat nyata. Aku appendkan satu coretannya dibawah. Boleh kunjungi weblog ini di makandeh.blogspot.com
23 December 2004

Raising Kids 
Masa aku kecik-kecik, aku cukup marah bila dengar orang cakap, lebih senang jaga lembu sekandang daripada anak dara seorang. Now that I am a mother of one (anak dara), aku boleh faham maksud tersirat. Dulu, aku ingatkan orang samakan anak dara dengan lembu ! Cehh…Actually, bukan susah jaga pun. Sama aje, anak lelaki anak pompuan. Apalagi zaman sekarang, lelaki pun boleh taram lelaki. But, yang mencabar ialah to raise them without controlling too much. To give them freedom yet in a controlled environment. Camana tu ? Measurement dia berubah-ubah ikut keadaan. Sebab itu aku rasa all ibubapa tak leh “lepa” dan biarkan anak tanpa kawalan. Sebab budak-budak ni akan sentiasa test kita. Kalau dia lepas Level 1 tanpa kita kata apa-apa, they will proceed to level 2 dan seterusnya. But, bila kita step down kat Level 3, dia akan turun balik ke Level 2. Alah, macam main computer games lah tu. Sama aje analogy nya.That is why aku ini agak strict dengan anak-anak aku and yet, aku bagi kebebasan to explore within my guidance.. Satu nasihat yang amat berguna aku pernah come across tentang raising kids ialah :“ Raising kids is like holding a bar of soap. If you squeeze it too hard, it will slip out of your hand. But if you hold it gently yet firmly, it will stay there. ““Raising children is much like flying a kite. If you let out too much string too fast, the slack in the line will cause it to crash. On the other hand, if you don't let out enough string, the kite will be held back and will never fly as it was intended. The key for both kite-flying and parenting is...balance.”See, everything in life is about BALANCE.

3 comments:

MA said...

Alamak Ayah - thanks for this! Ko tahu tak this entry was one of the ones yang terhilang...
And 8 years later...(from 2004-2012), the challenge of raising kids is still the same. Very very challenging. Nak kepong dalam rumah tak boleh, nak kasi keluar rumah sangat pun tak boleh - fenin tahu... Kena doa banyak-banyak agar semuanya selamat dan sentosa....

Anonymous said...

Salam, I'm not sure if you are now in Msia or in another country (US?), but I think having my kids grow up in a western environment is very challenging. I enjoy reading you blog, thank you for sharing :)

Anonymous said...

lama sgt dah x masuk blog ayah. maybe since 2008. x sangka nak baca balik entry yg lama2.
blog MA pun dah x masuk....

nadya_my :)

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